Taking a much-needed holiday break from my blog and focusing on spending as much quality time with my family as possible over the last few weeks has allowed me to focus on what I want for this site in 2013.
When I first started blogging in 2007, I was going through a difficult divorce. Difficult is not the right word. It was hell and I wanted, no, I needed a place to be able to share what I was going through and connect with others who knew what I was dealing with as a single mother of a young boy.
In 2008 and 2009, my blog began to take a different turn as I started to focus more on product reviews and keeping my personal life a bit more private after my ex-husband started using my blog against me.
I moved addresses a few times since then, landing here at this place in late 2010, when my second marriage began and life with a new baby brought me in an entirely new direction.
With a full-time job in 2011 and 2012 keeping me busy, this blog sort of fell to the bottom of my priority list (though always close to my heart) and I missed the days – and nights – of typing away and sharing my thoughts, opinions and experience – in regards to parenting, co-parenting, relationship and learning to let go.
2013 came in without any drama. My husband and I (barely) stayed up until midnight, just so we could kiss each other goodnight. It was a lovely gesture that we were able to ‘ring in the New Year’ together and I look forward to celebrating more moments and memories with him over the coming year.
One of the things I want to focus on in 2013 is getting back to blogging. You know, the real kind of blogging where I share things like why I adore my husband so much and how grateful I am that he’s in my life. I don’t always tell him, although I try to show him in many ways.
Recently, I’ve been reading and hearing about more and more couples going through a divorce or separation and I find myself reliving my own experience and wishing I were able to take that pain and lessons I learned and help others save their marriages, or at least get through the transition of it ending a little easier.
One of the pins on my Pinterest boards that continues to get so many clicks, likes and repins is one from Single Dad Laughing. When I first read his list on “16 Ways I Blew My Marriage,” I found myself nodding in agreement. Not that his marriages and my first were anything similar (I have no idea about anyone else’s marriage but my own), but I do know that there are some great words of advice that all couples (married, straight, or otherwise) could learn from this list.
And this is the same list I keep referring back to in trying to Keep My Marriage Strong and Healthy, because days go by quickly and it’s often too late when we realize that something isn’t right (or perfect) in our relationships and for many of us it’s very, very difficult to get back to the place we constantly wish we could be rather than enjoying the now of where we are, together.
I’ve read many books on healthy relationships and making marriage last, but nothing has been more helpful and reassuring to my husband and I than a simple (though not easy) discussion about where we’re at.
The long list of reasons why I love my husband is overwhelming at times. I’d like to think these are unique to us because I want to know that our relationship is special and amazing, but I know many others are experiencing something similar with their spouse or life partner. I just wonder how many of us say these things out loud to the person that needs to hear them the most.
Tonight, I will set aside some time to sit down with my husband and remind him of all the many reasons why I am in love with him and am grateful for having him in my life. I could post them all here and ask him to read it, but that would take away from the awkward moment when I blush and as we both feel slightly embarrassed while our eyes sparkle as I explain to him why he’s so attractive to me and why I enjoy just watching him sometimes – and what I think about when I do.
I was invited to participate in a Linkup Party this Thursday hosted by the Happy Wives Club. I invite you to do the same.
The gist of the link up is simple. The goal is to get as many of us bloggers out there, who love and adore our hubbies, to simply say so. The holidays are the toughest time every year for husbands and dads. Research continues to show it’s the most stressful time of the year for them. Now that the holidays are behind us, why not remind them of some of things we love most about them?
On any of your normal blog posts this week, or in a dedicated post just for this topic, share a small list with reasons you love and adore your husband. We’d love it if you left the link here in the comments section, and of course, add the link to the LinkUp Party at the Happy Wives Club site starting on Thursday (1/10/13).
And because my site is written for both men and women, I want to encourage husbands out there to do the same – write a post about why you love and adore your wife.